tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post114649853215337509..comments2024-01-02T23:04:02.489-08:00Comments on The Narcissist's Child: Mother’s Day MelancholiaSweet Violethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-16262443440910253512017-04-22T16:42:35.318-07:002017-04-22T16:42:35.318-07:00Thanks, this was so helpful to me. I will read it...Thanks, this was so helpful to me. I will read it again and again, as I watch my gorgeous little dog rest in peace, knowing that she has so much love from me, unlike what I have from my n-mother.HRH_Daivdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266278695018766323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-62421732561849215192015-07-16T05:34:25.310-07:002015-07-16T05:34:25.310-07:00Violet, I want to let you know that someone is imp...Violet, I want to let you know that someone is impersonating me in comments around the blogs. I wrote a post called "Imposters" about this. If anyone leaves anything nasty, passive aggressive or otherwise undermining and signs "Caliban's Sister," or CS, or Cal's Sis, it won't be me. I do not leave nasty or critical comments on anyone's blog. It's not why I'm blogging. So just a heads up. Thanks. CSCalibans Sisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04817489284771105048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-850307733181111622015-07-08T08:02:31.596-07:002015-07-08T08:02:31.596-07:00I have found reading your posts incredibly enlight...I have found reading your posts incredibly enlightening. Thank you.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-15917796003830743942015-07-05T16:54:35.352-07:002015-07-05T16:54:35.352-07:00I hate mother's day. And I have written a post...I hate mother's day. And I have written a post about it on my blog, after the last mother's day nightmare experience I had. I also just wanted to thank you for your blog because I found it today and it is really helping me so much. I also did not know about Daughters of a Narcissistic Mother.com being a bad site until I read your post regarding it so I appreciate you letting people know. I recommended pages on the site to my readers but told them not to buy the stuff sold there, and neither will I buy it. http://www.suicidalnomore.com/2015/07/having-narcissistic-abusive-mother-on.htmlFeminist Voice with Disabilitieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04971702402040080054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-32575339145501538982015-07-05T09:15:22.976-07:002015-07-05T09:15:22.976-07:00Thank you for this. I just found your site and I h...Thank you for this. I just found your site and I have only recently come to grips with the fact I have a narcissistic mother. And you are right. She is never going to change no matter how much I expect her to.Feminist Voice with Disabilitieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04971702402040080054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-50195770565762100412015-06-02T15:56:34.582-07:002015-06-02T15:56:34.582-07:00When asked how many children she had, my mother wo...When asked how many children she had, my mother would always answer, “I have a son” and then state his age. Her defense: “Why should anyone know my business!” I suspect the real reason was that by eliminating my sister and me, she could cut 10 years off her age. The problem with lying is that eventually it catches up to you. Like the time I stopped by while in the neighborhood. A new “friend” was visiting. I walked in and said, “Hi, mom” to which the woman responded in a shocked tone, “Mom? Mom? Who is this?” My mother ignored the question, so I filled the gap with, “I’m her daughter,” to which the woman demanded, “Daughter – but you told me you only had a son! Why did you lie to me?” My mother was making coffee, humming away, thoroughly indifferent to being caught in a lie. I then told the woman I had a sister, and my sister had three kids. She angrily turned to my mother, banged her foot on the floor, demanding, “Why did you lie to me?” My mother ignored the objection, laughing and smiling, sweet and charming, changing the subject, oblivious to it all. This was not the first time she was caught lying about how many children she had. But by now, I had enough. It was the last time I ever acknowledged her on Mother's Day. A few months later, I closed the door for good and went no-contact. An aunt, understanding how incredibly awkward and uncomfortable the situation was, suggested that when people started asking questions about my mother, to simply shut them down by saying she was deceased. I asked her, but what if they find out she isn't? She replied, then you explain that she is dead to you. I only said it once when someone pried into my personal life, and have felt guilty about it ever since. After that, I just dismissed the question with a comment, "my mother is mentally ill. It is a horrible illness. So please, I really don't want to discuss it." When I told my sister about the incident, she just laughed. Maybe we were too well trained to even consider we were worthy of respect. Sadly, my sister continues to cater to her every demand, after years of relentless abuse and injustice. Amazing what a malignant narcissist can get away with! . Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-73442127012041705742015-05-23T10:20:26.815-07:002015-05-23T10:20:26.815-07:00The last two Mother's Days have been a struggl...The last two Mother's Days have been a struggle. My mom (along with my two siblings) have been living in my home--RENT FREE--because of her poor financial decisions. So I haven't gotten her anything in a couple years--not a card, a nice dinner or anything. I mean, she's living here free--what else should she possibly want? Still, I do feel a twinge of guilt. She's the reason I'm even alive. Ugh.<br /><br />https://mynarcissisticfamily.wordpress.com/MNFhttps://mynarcissisticfamily.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-33628753243827143682015-05-10T08:13:07.192-07:002015-05-10T08:13:07.192-07:00Thank you for this. I've struggled with Mothe...Thank you for this. I've struggled with Mother's Day for more years than I care to count. Somehow, this year seems even harder as I am now Grandma. But, I'd never given thought to "expectations". What an eye-opener. Maybe I can finally close the door on the angst and hurt. Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03599739740886087571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-37973518490744785492015-05-10T04:16:03.209-07:002015-05-10T04:16:03.209-07:00"Mother's Day" should be changed or ..."Mother's Day" should be changed or amended to include "All the special or influential women who have impacted our lives Day." Considering orphans, abandoned, abused and foster children, the emphasis on "Mother's Day" only intensifies their loss. I have often sent cards or flowers to friends' mothers who treated me kindly, then feeling a little uneasy afterwards because they were not my mother. So let's put an asterisk after Mother's Day* in the card stores and advertisements to include all the decent women who have demonstrated genuine love for us in our lifetime. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com