tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post2825330517163666138..comments2024-01-02T23:04:02.489-08:00Comments on The Narcissist's Child: Narcissists: they are everywhereSweet Violethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-55125873056767017162015-11-10T13:19:34.985-08:002015-11-10T13:19:34.985-08:00Hi, I'm a young adult with a NM. I think I hav...Hi, I'm a young adult with a NM. I think I have formed some personality disorder myself. I try to retain my emotions, but sometimes I blow up with rage and then feel absolutely terrible about the things I say after I say them. Sometimes if it's nothing, my mom will start hysterically crying, but if it's something she knows is true, she acts like nothing happened and refuses to talk about it. It's come to the point where I am always saying sorry for comments I've made, but she never apologizes for the comments she makes (which is expected) and even acts more carefree and light (elated even). Am I only hurting myself by constantly apologizing, or is it good that I prevent myself from falling in the same pattern she does? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-49440051665646192302015-11-07T14:08:02.416-08:002015-11-07T14:08:02.416-08:00I take part in a social group that has a member wh...I take part in a social group that has a member whose daughter has (what I believe, without being a doctor or anything medical like that) is a high-functioning level of Aspberger's. She functions pretty normally with only minor quirks. Her father, an engineer, is *exactly the same*. The mother insists her daughter had autism (I didn't know them back then) and she 'cured' it...with a metal coil pinned to her shirt during the day, hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of special supplements, and "treatments" that including holding vials of various substances to see if they made her muscles weak. The mother has a PhD in biology, yet believes Wakefield is a persecuted genius just trying to save us all from Evil Big Pharma, who want to give all American children autism because Reasons. She also believes her chiropractor can cure Lyme disease by moving neckbones around. It's not fun being around her when she's on the topic of vaccinations and won't let it go. In frustration I once pointed out to her that my kids are all vaccinated...and none of them has autism. My spouse and I were vaccinated, and we don't have autism. If vaccinations caused autism, you'd see a whole lot more people walking around with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-89979626057628798732015-10-20T05:46:05.298-07:002015-10-20T05:46:05.298-07:00No. I am an experienced lay person who learned to ...No. I am an experienced lay person who learned to do research in college.Sweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-29325706515508775182015-10-20T04:58:59.867-07:002015-10-20T04:58:59.867-07:00Wow! It looks like you spent a lot of time and re...Wow! It looks like you spent a lot of time and research on this.....very impressive. (and eye opening). Are you a professional therapist? :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-37024175957911274872015-10-17T19:40:07.520-07:002015-10-17T19:40:07.520-07:00Thanks so much for this blog post! I had no idea a...Thanks so much for this blog post! I had no idea about this. I thought these people were simply confused due to the coincidental correlation between the timing of the vaccination and when the first symptoms of autism occur. Now I realise that they are willingly being duped by this con man! It is disgusting! Why are these people so afraid of autism, anyway? It is disgustingly ableist, too. Autism is not a disability, it is an oddity, a difference. It is abhorrent to me that these people (who are most likely vaccinated themselves) put the lives of their children and other peoples' children at risk to avoid it. It I selfish in the extreme. If there was an actual tiny causal link between autism and the vaccines, I would take the risk. It is better to have the small chance of having a child somewhere on the autism spectrum than a having my child (and other peoples' children) die from a preventable illness.MissEB47https://www.blogger.com/profile/03438615066265256434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-81422420895193324322015-10-17T06:25:29.022-07:002015-10-17T06:25:29.022-07:00Excellent post and excellent comment!Excellent post and excellent comment!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-53748008059837791642015-10-15T13:17:52.787-07:002015-10-15T13:17:52.787-07:00Thanks for this post, Violet! I have wondered why ...Thanks for this post, Violet! I have wondered why people "believe" an obvious narcissist (Trudeau) and disbelieve doctors and pharmacists and people who've devoted their lives to providing the best medical care possible. Why would someone think a huckster selling a thirty dollar book would be more reliable than a pharmaceutical company providing medications that save/improve people's lives? Are we so gullible as to think there are "secrets" our doctors do NOT know (Or are so uncaring as to deny their patients?). I have been and continue to be baffled by people's willingness trust the untrustworthy. But then again, doctors deliver the bad news making us feel powerless and liars restore our sense of power even if it's all a lie. We run towards the lie. That's pretty obvious when hucksters make millions of dollars that go unquestioned by the public because they create "true believers" who are trapped in cognitive dissonance. People will defend these hucksters to their last breath rather than question their own gullibility and/or narcissism.<br /><br />Maybe people are ambivalent about "authorities" and believe they're standing up for themselves when they rebel against data, statistics, research and standard medical practices? I pondered this strange phenomenon when people refused cancer treatments because they were going to "think positively." And then they died. And now that my daughter has been diagnosed with MS, I've heard scores of stories by people who insist their friend-or-relative cured MS with kale and bicycles. It's so strange, but the pull to magical thinking is seductive and many people with MS are unfortunately refusing treatment. They are thinking themselves healthy. Let me just say that if a human being could "think" herself healthy, we wouldn't have hospitals.<br /><br />I think it's not only narcissistic for gurus to pawn their wares, it's also narcissistic to believe one's "feelings and thoughts" are more powerful than medical treatments. My GOD how I would love it if a few meditations and kale smoothies would restore my daughter's functioning.........I would be dead today were it not for medical intervention. Do people ever read history??!!!&$^$%#%@!<br /><br />And one last thing about those supposedly horrible drug companies. This is a complex topic which cannot be reduced to something as simple as "BigPharma is good; BigPharma is evil." Life is so complicated now that I think frightened people resort to a black or white perspective. Then they look for an authority to make them "feel good" about their decision to forgo treatment or to stop vaccinations. How they "feel" is the deciding factor and people like Trudeau are experts at exploiting people's insecurities and making them feel "certain" in very uncertain times. I think we regress to childish behaviors when we're frightened.<br /><br />When my daughter's monthly medication cost more than we could possibly afford and she would not be able to get treatment (MS research is very expensive; I understand why these drugs outstrip most people's ability to pay), the drug company paid the costs for her. Drug companies do this for many people with incurable diseases. I was shocked by that and very grateful of course because if it were left up to my neighbors to make SURE my daughter was insured and received proper treatment, they'd turn a blind eye. Not Their Problem, you know. This type of narcissism runs rife in many cultures but especially in individualistic cultures who believe, on some unconscious level, that people must have done something wrong to end up being sick, homeless, disabled, you-get-the-drill.<br /><br />Thanks for a great post!<br />CZCZBZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09575206236892096611noreply@blogger.com