tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post5844033109275328760..comments2024-01-02T23:04:02.489-08:00Comments on The Narcissist's Child: Danu Morrigan has written a book!Sweet Violethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-70201286178587576292015-03-18T10:41:26.041-07:002015-03-18T10:41:26.041-07:00I, too, found "Danu's" site after re...I, too, found "Danu's" site after reading The Guardian article. I emailed her and provided personal information about my situation last night. I included that my conflict was that I didn't want my sons to think that I had taken their grandma away. Instantly, I received a response and she had said that my story reminded her that she needed to write something about narcissistic grandmothers. The strange part was that she referenced pedophiles twice in the article. I had mentioned that my brother had molested my sister and I and thought it strange that she would reference this. It elicited a physical reaction each time I read it and felt like she was talking directly to me. I responded to her email and divulged even more personal information. I felt like I was so lucky to get so much support, since I really had no one else to help me with NC. Now, I feel played and wish I had not been so trusting with my personal story. Thank you for informing DONMs of this treachery. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-51437758712039790942015-02-26T18:07:31.684-08:002015-02-26T18:07:31.684-08:00I just found Danu Morrigan's DONM site and as ...I just found Danu Morrigan's DONM site and as I read more and more, my gutt instinct told me THIS PERSON IS A NARCISSIST. Somehow (thank you God) my next link was to this site, and THANK all for the validation of my gutt feeling. I'm so pleased that my extensive N education and my improved self-awareness and self-love (as well as long-time detachment from my N mother and sister) is truly helping me to recognize their sad cry for help, place them in God's hands, and WALK AWAY (feeling proud of myself!) THANK YOU !!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-56628340755788275052014-08-02T06:05:51.524-07:002014-08-02T06:05:51.524-07:00Ruth, I have no idea how Tracy runs her website, s...Ruth, I have no idea how Tracy runs her website, so I cannot give you any information about whether or not you can unsubscribe.<br /><br />I also have no idea how vulnerable you are to public exposure. That book may be her only offering, then again, she may be gathering information for another book using her existing website.<br /><br />You will have to contact Tracy herself via her website to learn how to unsubscribe and get out of her web. I wish I could help you, but there is really nothing I can do and no advice on this situation I can offer.<br /><br />Best of luck<br /><br />VioletSweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-72158182333536169892014-08-01T16:23:40.960-07:002014-08-01T16:23:40.960-07:00Oh no, I paid for that test and completed it. I th...Oh no, I paid for that test and completed it. I thought it would help me and a friend of mine. Am I at risk of public exposure? Do I have any recourse to unsubscribe from it? I feel quite vulnerable now. So glad I did not send a copy of the book to my mother, as I first intended. She would have jumped at the chance of discrediting me to other members of the family for my 'vindictiveness' and belief in 'snake oil' had she googled Tracey and her flying monkeys.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14603256110838511136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-38455100993371500432014-07-23T16:30:02.242-07:002014-07-23T16:30:02.242-07:00Forgot to say, thank you for your warning about D...Forgot to say, thank you for your warning about Danu Morrigan - I did come across her site very quickly on my search - but I also saw yours and read your warning, - I had a look on hers and clicked on the narcissm test - straight away she asks for payment of 7 dollars, which is outrageous to charge for this, especially as you can download them from other sites for free - I did not bother looking any further on her site - <br />Thanks for your blog - read some of your memories - quite shocking - I will read some more, but a bit at a time.It is brave of you to share these. <br /> I will share just one of mine from childhood - several times I pulled my dressing table across my bedroom door because my mother kept threatening to come in and stab me in my sleep - I suffered insomnia for decades - <br />Sonic starfishnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-18455494468829304082014-07-23T16:10:47.837-07:002014-07-23T16:10:47.837-07:00Yes that is exactly what I experience from her - t...Yes that is exactly what I experience from her - the long drawn out argument = which she enjoys very much - this is why I confined her to only email contact for over a year - - <br />I was very good at looking after myself in the relationship for a very long time. . I long ago realised I had a toxic parent and had only minimal contact for years,and I had 2 good mother substitutes and role models, but when she split up with my step father and moved near (50 miles away but still too close) I somehow got sucked back in.- <br /><br />I think it was because I was very vulnerable at the time and suffered a lot of bullying at work and driven out because I have a hidden disability (Dyspraxia) It was only when on a visit (mother's day, ironically) she pointed out I wasn't laughing at her jokes, "we have different humour mother," and she began screaming abuse at me saying I lost my job because I was so horrible I could not keep a job or friends - I refused to see her since - That made me realise more than anything that I had once more been sucked back in. She has never been one minute concerned or sympathetic about my losing my job and my home, but implied often it was my fault and I should accept I deserved it..<br />I owe her nothing at all - I know that, she was never there for me , she has no respect or liking for me - and was so insanely jealous when I went to University that I had to break off contact with her for 2 years because I knew I would never achieve success otherwise -<br />For me it is a bit of a Dilemma when she was younger and had a husband I could just concentrate on looking after myself by distancing myself - but now she is old, alone and has health problems (genuine as well as imagined)- It just doesnt feel right to me to cut off completely - This is a no win situation it seems because I cannot have a loving or even halfway decent relationship with her - she wont change I know that - but I wouldn't feel good about myself to just reject her completely either. <br />So I am going back to very limited, contact because a complete break doesn't work for me, I feel too much guilt to have a peace about it. also because of the family dynamics (I have 4 sisters) and I, unlike my mother, do have the ability to feel empathy - I know that although on one level she knows her behaviour is wrong and she enjoys and gets pleasure from it on the other hand she is a damaged unhappy human being , - (she was a battered child). And I often feel torn in her company because I do see the hurt child in her - the fact that she can't see mine, doesn't alter that - <br />I spent so much of my life, first hating and fighting her, then trying to "develop a relationship with my mother" until I realised this was never going to happen, the more I tried to understand and have a mother/daughter relationship, the less respect she seemed to have for me. Now it seems there is a new twist because she is old and I try as I might, not to , do feel the old pull of the family tie - <br /> But I am going to go back to minimal contact 2 or 3 times a year and never alone - my sister is coming to see me - and we plan to pay a joint visit for her birthday, She will definitely never get to come into my home again.<br />It would be interesting to know how other people manage and cope when their toxic abusive parent gets older and in need of genuine support, <br />You are right, incidentally about narcissists getting worse as they get older - It does seem to me she is worse and more psychotic - She had a minor grade 1 lesion - I saw the medical report - but is telling everyone she is dying of a brain tumour to get lots of sympathy - she gets none from the family we have all experienced friends/inlaws with grade 4 tumours and are pretty sickened. I really don't think she would have gone that far say 10/15 years ago, but I also do genuinely think she does convince herself of this at the same time and is hurt and bewildered by our lack of "feeling" for her.<br />Like I say - the narcisstic parent, the gift that keeps on giving. Sonic starfishnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-66673982906863645722014-07-22T23:42:11.838-07:002014-07-22T23:42:11.838-07:00Your mother is not going to change. Narcissists on...Your mother is not going to change. Narcissists only get worse as they age, not better.<br /><br />Our society has many sacred cows and myths that people never seem to challenge. Among them are "all mothers love their children" and "old people's eccentricities must be sympathetically tolerated." Well, guess what? A jerk is a jerk, a predator is a predator, no matter how old. If your mother was a serial child molester, would you make allowances just because she is 80? Narcissists take sore advantage of whatever opening you give them, so if you feel sorry for her because she is 80 and alone, that is the only crack she needs to get back into your life.<br /><br />My therapist once asked me, when I was moaning about some of my narcissistic husband's behavior, a telling question: "If you are looking out for him and his feelings and he is looking out for him and his feelings, who is looking out for you and your feelings?" The answer, of course, was "nobody."<br /><br />You seem to feel compelled to put your own well being aside the moment she rocks up and demands to be put first. Ask yourself two questions: 1) why? and 2) who's looking out for me while she and I are both looking out for her?<br /><br />There is nothing wrong with taking care of yourself and if that involves putting her aside, then that is what you must do. She made her bed and believe me, she KNOWS why people shun her, she just thinks you are wrong to do so. Don't buy into her crazy. <br /><br />Think about when you fly: the cabin attendant does her little song and dance at the beginning of the flight and one of the things she tells you is that when the oxygen masks drop, you should put yours on first, BEFORE you help anyone else, even your child. Why? Because only by taking care of yourself first do you have the oxygen to stay conscious and help others... In other words, do what is best for YOU because only by taking care of yourself first can you have what you need for others.<br /><br />Narcissists are sometimes called "psychic vampires" because the drain us of all of our emotional energy, leaving us spent. I think of them like those mind control parasites that invade the brains of other creatures and force them to do their bidding and ultimately destroy their hosts. YOUR well-being comes first and if your NM is emotionally harmful to you, then have no contact with her. She is not entitled to an explanation, and if you give one, be prepared for a long, drawn out argument where she tries to point out how you are wrong, that you are crazy, that she is right, that you are lying, that she deserves something from you. "No" is really all you have to say.<br /><br />Remember you (and your sister) have choice. If you to let her back into your life and she starts all of her old tricks again, she will take her re-admittance to your life as permission to behave as she always has. You get to choose...admittedly your choices are narrow, but you still have choice: let her in and experience her narcissism all over again or keep her out of your life and retain your peace. <br /><br />But remember, when you make a choice, you choose the consequences of it as well.Sweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-54335820979430711572014-07-22T17:21:44.405-07:002014-07-22T17:21:44.405-07:00Hi I have known for a long time my mother was a na...Hi I have known for a long time my mother was a narcisstic personality - I have read a lot about narcissm and toxic parents - only just occurred to me to google "narcisstic mothers" - <br />I spent two hours last night talking to my sister who was in melt down because our mother keeps leaving messages to arrange staying a few days with her - I know exactly how my sister feels - I received a text from our mother 2 weeks ago asking if she could come and stay overnight with me - I cant begin to describe how my heart sank and the panic I felt - For the past year and a half I have refused her any contact with me other than by email - I even had to defriend her from face book as she was posting insulting comments saying I needed to see a psychiatrist because I "wasn't right" then she told every one I was stalking her on face book. the past month we began talking over the telephone again, now she wants to just take up where we left off and I cant - I have banned that woman from my life many times (Often having no contact for up to 3 years) and given her so many chances and I just can't do it again. <br />I'm afraid I panicked and lied saying I had a visitor staying with me - now I am waiting for her to ask again and I will tell her the truth that I can give her a few hours contact several times a year in a neutral place, (accompanied by a friend) but no more - With any luck she will take offence and wont speak to me for a while but she will contact me again - she is lonely,she drives everyone away from her and I live the closest. <br />what can I do, she is 80 next month and I know she wants us (my sisters and I )to make a fuss of her, but none of us can bear to be around her. I feel guilty knowing her feelings will be hurt and she wont understand, but contact only brings abuse and emotional deconstruction- I can spend up to 2 days crying after contact with her, and most people see me as pretty tough. <br />My sister felt so guilty even discussing her feelings about our mother with me - I view discussion as healthy not negative, but there is so little support . and Having a narcisstic parent is the gift that keeps on giving, even when they're absent - it is like a terrible curse you can't free yourself from. My sister still hasn't plucked up courage to answer the messages and phone her mainly because she can't find a way to tell her that she can't come and stay with her . <br />Anyway just thought I'd post - Probably not what this blog is for but good to share it with people who KNOW - friends are sympathetic but they don't really understand. <br />Sonic starfishnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-10371893483371544442014-06-12T23:58:52.000-07:002014-06-12T23:58:52.000-07:00Everything you describe as "clarity regarding...Everything you describe as "clarity regarding characteristics, behaviour, etc." is available on line through blogs such as this and through hundreds of websites by psychologists and other professionals. In fact, this is where she got the information you describe and if you go to her website you'll find it all...some of it blatantly plagiarized from sites such as Joanna Ashmun's or Kathy Krajco's (both of whom are conveniently deceased so they can't sue her for copyright infringement).<br /><br />I highly recommend Ashmun's site...there is a link in the right-hand corner of my blog's main page...she is a better writer and researcher.<br /><br />I have not read Tracy Culleton's book ("Danu Morrigan" is the alter-ego of Tracy Culleton and if you look up both names you'll find she named herself after Celtic dieties...grandiose much?) and unless I come across it on the web or for free, I shan't---not one red cent of my money will go into that woman's pocket. If you don't understand why, go to the main page of this blog and read the first "Beware these Sites" tab near the top. The woman is despicable and I will contribute nothing to bettering her life.Sweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-45589201700560735702014-06-09T05:04:23.175-07:002014-06-09T05:04:23.175-07:00I was directed to Morrigan's book after readin...I was directed to Morrigan's book after reading an answer to a problem in a magazine which recommended it. I have to say after many many years trying to work out what was wrong with me and my siblings I found it comforting in its specificity. there is definitely something grating and shrill in her writing and not a lot of room for remaining in contact with your mother. Because this has gone on for so long with me I naturally established a LC relationship with my mother in order to survive. and it works... but I'm still grateful to Morrigan for her clarity regarding characteristics, behaviour etc. Its valuable because there is so little information out there. To all of you with a NM or ND I found that acceptance that you will never feel love from them for your true self is very important....if you can work through that loss etc you can end up loving them and finding validation and love elsewhere for yourself. Acceptance is key. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-57448602177565980492013-09-27T07:27:04.935-07:002013-09-27T07:27:04.935-07:00ps the woman's business title is MASSIVE MARKE...ps the woman's business title is MASSIVE MARKETING ACTION!Go figure. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-83087015271991505122013-09-20T09:20:27.312-07:002013-09-20T09:20:27.312-07:00I found the Morrigan site a couple of hours ago, a...I found the Morrigan site a couple of hours ago, and while I found some of the information interesting, the site had a creepy vibe. So I looked around and found this. There is something very grasping about the Morrigan woman. It feels to me like all she is after is money. I've known people in the EFT community in London and they are so kind ... It's good to have my intuition validated anyway, with an abusive narcissistic mother validation hasn't been a big part of life. Seriously, I do feel hopeless a lot of the time, I have tried and tried, and still cannot heal the pain and ongoing low-key trauma of years of abuse and neglect, and I feel like I continue to be punished for a crime I didn't commit. My mother used to say she was sorry I was born, and a lot of the time that made two of us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-10444440364900052732013-09-02T16:54:20.717-07:002013-09-02T16:54:20.717-07:00Sweet Violet, thanks for your quick reply! I had c...Sweet Violet, thanks for your quick reply! I had come to depend on the site for support, and feel the loss now that it's gone...she did say that she and her husband had separated a while back, but, as I recall, they were going to continue as business partners.<br /><br />She had a giant screen-sized ad for her books that appeared at the top of the forum, and the in your face message was 'buy my book', and I have a feeling that very few did buy it. It could be that she's also made enough money, as you say, and doesn't want to provide the service any longer! Sad for many who relied on it, but actually the forum focus was beginning to drift quite a bit into other areas beyond NMs.<br /><br />Thanks again, and God bless!Miss Beenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-55022534210210929052013-09-01T23:42:02.911-07:002013-09-01T23:42:02.911-07:00I have just verified this. When you click on the l...I have just verified this. When you click on the link for the forum you get to a page that says "Apologies but the forum is down for technical issues further notice - we're working on it and hope to have it back up asap."<br /><br />If it has been down for several weeks, as Miss Bee reports, then the reasons could be many: it could be a technical problem but I think that is unlikely since her husband runs (even owns) the site and he also owns the internet portal it comes through. He is an internet geek and it is unlikely that a technical problem has gone on this long...unless it is hardware related.<br /><br />I have spoken to people who know her and have been told she is a contentious, bossy sort...could it be her marriage has foundered as a result and she has lost her free forum as a result? Or perhaps there has been in rift inside the forum management (it wouldn't be the first time) that shut the place down? Another possibility is that she is revamping the forum to have better control. <br /><br />Yet another possibility...and one I favour...is that the forum is going away permanently. If you look at her other sites (she has about a dozen), you will see that they do not need regular monitoring. They just sit there, stagnant, with a bunch of links you can go to. But she seldom checks in, modifies, or updates them. I suspect the forum may have outlived its usefulness to her: she's gleaned all she needed from the women who posted there (plus nobody was paying enough either to support the site or for her EFT), so now that she's squeezed enough out of them to get a book out (and she DOES like to think of herself as a best-selling author), she no longer needs a forum that requires regular monitoring and attendance on her part.<br /><br />Those are my guesses--it will be interesting to see if it ever comes back (I will be surprised if it does).<br /><br />Thanks for the head's up, Miss Bee!<br />Sweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-27345433313741746612013-09-01T20:27:00.051-07:002013-09-01T20:27:00.051-07:00Her forum has been down for several weeks now. Or ...Her forum has been down for several weeks now. Or is this another form of being banned?Miss Beenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-80588141431095574642013-07-01T11:33:40.817-07:002013-07-01T11:33:40.817-07:00I got banned the other day from the website after ...I got banned the other day from the website after only having been a member for 3 days. I got a vague message telling me I had broken the terms...which I hadn't in fact I had to purposefully go out of my way not to break them since they were so stifling. But I believe my great sin being that I did mention I felt those things we weren't allowed to discuss (religion, politics) had value in demonstrating where a person was coming from... and though never mentioning those things about me or others... I was still banned.<br /><br />I was surprised and initially angry... but I believe I am at a point enough not to be traumatized over the event. In fact, I am thankful that it happened sooner than later... I would rather see how unhealthy the place was early on than after I really invested myself in sharing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-68872155674273177752013-06-26T02:56:50.644-07:002013-06-26T02:56:50.644-07:00I got banned from th DoNM website and I am so sad ...I got banned from th DoNM website and I am so sad to hear lots of others being banned.<br />Cliquiness is a characteristic of dysfunctional humans, and this is what DoNM is. It happens because the clique can then exclude people, as exclusion is a typical bully trait.<br />I am now on webofnarcissm.com, a much better atmosphere, and none of that awful cliquiness.<br /><br />On Amazon, you can actually write about the author of the book on their site. Hopefully others will see that Danu is not to be trusted.<br /><br />When I joined DoNM I got a pm warning me about bannings, but I just ignored the pm, thinking it was some kind of spam, but then Danu made me feel unwelcome in her forum and I got banned, just like lots of others, my source of support, whipped away, just like that!Chrissynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-91601077417030184972013-06-21T18:25:57.487-07:002013-06-21T18:25:57.487-07:00Why is everyone anonymous?
Why is everyone anonymous?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-5668949253354318102013-06-21T14:46:04.687-07:002013-06-21T14:46:04.687-07:00I'm really upset by this. I stumbled across he...I'm really upset by this. I stumbled across her site less than a year ago & having a name put to my pain was great. Now, I feel like I'll never goback there. My question is can anyone with any info or resources please contact me with them? I need to know soooo much more. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02273223721506146993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-36165036913869569302013-04-20T00:00:44.834-07:002013-04-20T00:00:44.834-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.journalhealinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07847213789776782776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-86869240828845778212013-04-09T05:45:15.776-07:002013-04-09T05:45:15.776-07:00The law can't do anything unless she is actual...The law can't do anything unless she is actually breaking a law. She is based in Ireland and I know nothing of Irish law. The problem with the web in general is that it is kinda like the Old West--wide open and lawless. We just have to take a "caveat emptor" approach and stop being so gullible and believing everything we see in print.<br /><br />The woman is the worst kind of fraud, but as far as I know, she is not specifically breaking any laws, just bending them really hard. Just because something is legal, however, doesn't make it ethical and my experiences with her indicate to me that she is as devoid of ethics as she is of compassion and empathy. <br /><br />I guess we just have to count on karma...<br /><br />Hugs to you,<br /><br />VioletSweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-46569585681154182822013-03-07T20:57:05.571-08:002013-03-07T20:57:05.571-08:00After reading all of this I just can't help bu...After reading all of this I just can't help but wonder if someone can actually do all this things and just get away with it.<br /> I take it if you're warning people that means that these websites are still working.<br />Can't the law make her pay for all she's done? Make sure she never owns a website again? (I know it was the husband but it doesn't make a difference). Fine her with an amount of money so big even a narcissist would regret hurting so much people. The last one wouldn't really help "heal" anyone but it would be reassuring to know that this people ultimately pay the price of their actions. Pardon my possible mistakes and thanks for your time if you read this comment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-45698742942278959202013-02-15T00:01:07.225-08:002013-02-15T00:01:07.225-08:00At the risk of sounding like a broken record, have...At the risk of sounding like a broken record, have you considered counselling or therapy?<br /><br />You have two issues to deal with at present: grief over your mother's death and the aftermath of having a narcissistic parent. My NM died about 15 years ago and, quite frankly, I did not mourn her death. I did, however, grieve for the loss of hope that one day she would wake up, see how much she had hurt me, and feel bad enough about it to try to make it right. No such luck...she lived and died a malignant narcissist, writing me out of the will and setting up a dynamic calculated to keep the chaos and dissention alive and festering for at least another generation.<br /><br />This is not something we can sort through ourselves, without help from others. Life with a narcissist is a confusing, convoluted, logic-free zone, a life in which we are subordinate to a crazy person who often maliciously assaults us without cause. It makes no sense and it hurts. And when they are gone, we often deal with grief at the loss of our hope that she will someday turn into a real mother, relief that the torment is over, and guilt for feeling glad she is gone.<br /><br />Moving on is the right thing to do, but sometimes tough on our own. A therapist specializing in dealing with the adult victims of childhood abuse might be just what you need to get that "moving on" well underway.<br /><br />Hugs and best of luck to you.<br /><br />VioletSweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-87145919255132242942013-02-07T08:32:13.068-08:002013-02-07T08:32:13.068-08:00Hi violet
My Mother died two years ago but I stil...Hi violet<br /><br />My Mother died two years ago but I still have days where its difficult to cope with her death. Everything was such a mess. I went through years of emotional trauma with the woman but everything went into meltdown when my aunt became terminally ill. My mother manipulated my relationship with my aunt in her last few months of life so much so that she stole the last precious weeks I should have had with my aunt.<br />My mother had manipulated every relationship I ever had, but I didn't want to believe it. i wanted to hold on to her whatever the cost. But this last manipulation was one betrayal too far. I cut back the contact, but still thought one day i could mend it.<br />In the next two years I had hate letters and emails and texts that threatened my emotional well being. It wasn't this first time, but unlike the previous occasion I couldn't let her back into my life. It was too much. Several panic attacks later, I cut all contact.<br />Then I got a phonecall to say she had terminal cancer. She'd kept it to herself of course, had to have complete control until the last minute. One week later she was dead. I was reeling from shock.<br />Not as much as when I discovered she's written a new will the same day as we buried my aunt and I wasn't in it.<br />For two years she'd been calling round, writing to me, asking me why I wanted nothing to do with her, asking how we'd ever got to this stage and all the time she'd already written me out of her will!<br />I really need to move on. I think I'm getting there. I guess it just takes time. But I'm just fed up with my life being full of her Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-66121623150709876172013-01-26T00:46:25.672-08:002013-01-26T00:46:25.672-08:00The sad part about the "informative" nat...The sad part about the "informative" nature of her site is that a good part of it is plagiarized (or at least it was back when I was a member) and then stolen material is "massaged" to alter the intent of the original authors and reflect the prejudices of the website's management.<br /><br />I discovered this two ways: first, they published an article saying if your NM was physically violent, she actually was not an N because Ns are never physically abusive. A psychologist who was a member of the forum disputed this and was banned as a result. I was banned for sticking up for her and because I had a physically abusive NM, therefore I did not belong there.<br /><br />After being banned, I went looking for more information and came across the very article that was plagiarized and altered...sadly, I failed to note the link and have not been able to find it again. But what I DID find was Joanna Ashmun's site (please Google it---you will find a WEALTH of information there) and as I read the articles, I kept having an eerie sense of deja vu--until I realized that some of the articles were almost verbatim copies of the stuff I read on the DoNM site. Then I did a little date checking and discovered that Ashmun was deceased (and therefore very unlikely to sue for copyright infringement) and that Ashmun published the articles well before the DoNM site. <br /><br />I have no problem with copying and embellishing the work of other people...I have a problem with passing it off as your own work. When I publish the work of others, I always provide a link to the original site, thereby providing attribution. <br /><br />If you want your eyes REALLY opened to the perfidy of this woman, google "Tracey Culleton" (her real name) and go read her dozen or so websites. If she isn't an N herself, she has the worst case of fleas on record!<br /><br />Cheers and thanks for writing<br /><br />VioletSweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.com