tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post6553438465660219066..comments2024-01-02T23:04:02.489-08:00Comments on The Narcissist's Child: Arrested DevelopmentSweet Violethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-70344866747654097392019-03-07T01:27:22.671-08:002019-03-07T01:27:22.671-08:00Haha! Gemini here! I was also the scapegoat daught...Haha! Gemini here! I was also the scapegoat daughter, and only empath, in my entire family. My GC brother was the Pisces. Definitely N, always back then and also today. NMom was a Taurus. Our birthdays were exactly 1 month apart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-19541860321806693982015-06-04T19:20:44.907-07:002015-06-04T19:20:44.907-07:00LOL I know no one may see this post because the or...LOL I know no one may see this post because the original is so old, but I am the Gemini "scapegoat" daughter of a Pisces NM.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-12571394608935945082013-09-30T23:56:10.981-07:002013-09-30T23:56:10.981-07:00Unfortunately, my daughter is also a Pisces and sh...Unfortunately, my daughter is also a Pisces and she is very narcissistic. My mother had a great deal of influence over her in her early years, and she is much more like my mother than like me.<br /><br />My husband's family is originally from Chennai. They have been in South Africa for 100 years or so, though. We do occasionally visit India...when we go next, I will let you know.Sweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-58134189423109825562013-09-30T21:41:57.764-07:002013-09-30T21:41:57.764-07:00I feel really sorry for you from an astrologer'...I feel really sorry for you from an astrologer's perspective. Pisces girls are real real soft ideal sweetheart materials unable to assert themselves and truly selfless. I can see from your compassionate replies where you have not ignored one single reader that you really are on a mission to help uplift fellow SGs. <br /><br />Gemini women are real big narcissists, my boss is one, she hates my guts no end and loves to be surrounded by useless yes men fawning over her supposed greatness, my peers are the GCs and i am supposedly the SG i get the least of financial incentives, and i couldnt care less. My NM's brothers are both geminis, col gadaffi was one, As you mentioned PETA's Ingrin newkirk and her cruelty, she is another gemini. A look at her man-face reeks of hypocrisy. <br /><br />Though i dont wish to take this blog discussions to another dimensions, astrology is a life saver in understanding this. I dont mean textbook astrology of geminis being intelligent and virgos being clean, these textbooks are as toxic as the writers of the same, they are meant to sell. I mean practical observations of sun signs, people of the same sign invariably give out the same toxic vibes. My mother and brother both were leos. So long as i lived in her house i used to spend most of the times locked up in my room with music, arts, prayers etc. I used to shut them out. <br /><br />I genuinely wish i could know you in person, anytime you are in chennai just let me know.osirisisishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04223942638757578676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-21746057286558442252013-09-30T02:48:32.764-07:002013-09-30T02:48:32.764-07:00My mother was a Gemini. My father and I are both P...My mother was a Gemini. My father and I are both Pisces.Sweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-21676854841429288942013-09-30T02:07:48.900-07:002013-09-30T02:07:48.900-07:00Violet
What was your NMs sun sign and yours. Violet<br />What was your NMs sun sign and yours. osirisisishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04223942638757578676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-57780061065382126832013-05-16T09:11:28.825-07:002013-05-16T09:11:28.825-07:00Good for you. One of the things I used to say was ...Good for you. One of the things I used to say was that my mother was a perfect of example of how NOT to be. Don't let your siblings suck you and or make you defensive: it isn't your fault that they won't open their eyes and you can't let them smother you in their denial. It may cause a rift in your family (it did in mine), but sometimes you have to choose between being sane and alone or crazy with the rest of the crazies. Personally, I'd rather be sane and alone.<br /><br />Narcissists do not get better as they get older, they just become more convinced they are right and more skilled at manipulation. Unless you want to deal with pig-headed selfishness and being used like a pawn on a chess board, you have to set a boundary and enforce it. I guarantee the Ns in your life won't like it...and some of them won't even respect it, but it's a step you have to take if you want to be independent of them. It's not easy, but the eventual rewards are worth it.<br /><br />Good luck to you!<br /><br />Hugs,<br /><br />VioletSweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-14870128143857048582013-05-03T05:42:38.708-07:002013-05-03T05:42:38.708-07:00My NM has become more 'crazy' as she gets ...My NM has become more 'crazy' as she gets older. Well I'm not sure what it is but she says the strangest things and everyone just says she is getting old! Or she acts like she doesn't understand so people feel sorry for the poor old lady. I am convinced that she knows exactly what she says and then to make them think she is crazy so she can get away with her manipulation. Problem is most of my siblings fall for it and even scold me for being disrespectful cause I won't tolerate her manipulation. I am 'lucky' that I never had her beat me up but the emotional damage she did by gaslighting, projecting etc has left me with alot of scars. Ones I will heal so I never become a bitter old lady like her! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-51581846135388736872012-09-05T05:45:34.310-07:002012-09-05T05:45:34.310-07:00Yours is the second comment today from a reader wh...Yours is the second comment today from a reader who refers to a GC sibling deriving some kind of pleasure from the SG's pain. This, perhaps, is how these kids grow up to be Ns themselves...from their earliest days they are indoctrinated with a sense of right and wrong that simply advantages them and disadvanges others. Children below the age of 7 seldom have much empathy and when they are past that age, they have the ABILITY to be empathetic, but like so many other things, I think it has to be demonstrated to them as a positive attribute for them to pick up on it and want to emulate it.<br /><br />Obviously your siblings didn't have much of a role model for empathy, like my brother. I suspect there comes a point when it is too late for them to learn it, although they may learn to fake it when that serves them. Sad, isn't it, to look back and see innocence corrupted this way?Sweet Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08321094659806702782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4333405565931840271.post-61442702978602997512012-09-04T22:35:13.231-07:002012-09-04T22:35:13.231-07:00Like you, I was punished when my younger siblings ...Like you, I was punished when my younger siblings did anything wrong, because I was supposed to be constantly watching them and controlling their behavior. I was an only child until the year I turned 7, when twin girls were born. 17 months later a handicapped boy was born, and 2 and a half years after that, the boy my dad said could not be his came into the world. (That was when my parents' marriage began unraveling.)<br /><br />By the time my siblings were toddlers, I was 11-12 years old. Can you imagine how impossible it was to constantly watch every move that all 4 of my active sisters and brothers made, and control everything they did?<br /><br />Like your younger brother, my 2 sisters and 2 brothers didn't have any incentive to not misbehave, because they knew they wouldn't be punished ~ "Big Sissy" would get the spanking.<br /><br />Every time I was punished for "allowing" one of my siblings to do something wrong, I would wonder why it was that when I was 2 and 3 and 4 and 5 years old, if I did something forbidden, *I* got spanked for it ~ no one else was ever punished for not watching and controlling ME, when I was a toddler/preschooler. Yet, when my siblings were 2 and 3 and 4 and 5 years old, doing the very same forbidden things that I used to get spanked for doing when I was their ages, they never were punished, *I* was still getting all the spankings.<br /><br />Of course I didn't DARE say anything to my parents about how unfair this was; "backtalk" like that would have gotten me spanked twice as hard and four times as long.<br /><br />One day I was watching my sisters and brothers playing in the basement. It was too hot to play outside, and Mother wanted us out of her hair, so down to the basement we went. While the 4 of them were playing a game of tag, I was sitting close by with a bottle of clear nail polish that I had bought with some money my grandfather gave me. I was putting the polish on, and had about half of my nails done, when one of my brothers fell and was crying. I quickly set my opened nail polish bottle down on our dad's old wood work table and rushed over to comfort my brother and check to see if he was badly hurt.<br /><br />In the few minutes my back was turned, one of my sisters grabbed the nail polish bottle and spilled every bit of it, leaving a thick gooey little puddle on the old work table.<br /><br />After I comforted my brother and made sure he was ok, I turned back to finish polishing my nails and discovered my nail polish congealing on the old table. Feeling sad that I couldn't finish making my fingernails look nice and shiny, I cleaned up as much as I could of the mess. I figured it didn't matter that I couldn't quite get it all cleaned off, because the table was scarred all over and covered with paint splatters and grease stains.<br /><br />A few days later my dad saw the dried up clear nail polish on his work table. In a fury, he demanded that I tell him how that happened. As I told him the whole story from beginning to end, I remember thinking that surely I wouldn't be punished this time, because my sister's misbehavior had already caused me pain ~ after all, I had lost my nail polish that I paid for with my own money, and as a result I hadn't been able to finish polishing my nails. Surely Dad would understand that I obviously had not been purposefully neglectful in this situation!<br /><br />But, as I'm sure you've already guessed, I was spanked for "allowing" my sister to get into my nail polish. What hurt me even worse than the spanking was seeing my little sister's sly grin as she watched our dad beat my back side and listened to me scream and cry. I adored my siblings, I really, truly did! Why was my beloved little sister looking so HAPPY as she watched me being spanked for something that SHE had done wrong?<br /><br />...and the dysfunction goes on...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com