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Narcissists and Flying Monkeys

Narcissistic parents

Malignant Narcissist, The

Growing older…and worse, too

Arrested Development

Narcissists feel entitled

Narcissists are delusional

Grandiose: What’sThat?

Empathetic Narcissist = Oxymoron

Narcissists are shameless

Narcissists are incapable of introspection

Gaslighting—the narcissist’s crazy making tool

Triangulation—the narcissist’s secret weapon

Projection: coming from a narcissist near you

Denial—the core of Narcissism

Selective Memory

Getting sucked back in—all about Hoovering

Narcissistic Rage:not always a fire storm

Emotional blackmail and you

I was set up…and so were you!

How we were set up…and how we may be setting up our kids Pt1

How we were set up…and how we may be setting up our kids Pt2

Perfection Trap, The

The"Identified Patient, The"

Scapegoat’s children: the Narcissist’s grandchildren, The

Narcissists choose their behavioursHero Syndrome

Real-Life Exchange with a Narcissist

Rudeness—it can be a narcissistic tool

It’s not personal…and it never was…

What happens when you send your N “The Letter” Narcissists: they are everywhere

But she’s your MOTHER!

Scapegoat or Golden Child: Victims of Narcissistic Apartheid

Flying Monkeys in your Life, The

Personality Disorders: The Controllers, Manipulators and Abusers in Relationships, Pt 1

Personality Disorders: The Controllers, Manipulators and Abusers in Relationships, Pt 2

Personality Disorders: The Controllers, Manipulators and Abusers in Relationships, Pt 3

Emperor’s New Clothes, The

Never-Ending Story: At War with a Narcissist, The Heads Up! Narc Attack!

Troll Attacks, The

How Narcissists use Guilt to Control You

Betrayal: the B-Word

Emotional Abuse: Finally! An "Official" Definition...

Identifying Emotionally Abusive Parental Behaviour...

When your N dies, the flying monkeys take over...

Evolution of a smear campaign, The

Smallness of evil, The

Dear Estranged and Alienated Parents and Grandparents

Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers

Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 1

Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 2

Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 3  

Undermining: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers: Pt 4

Demeaning, criticism and denigration: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 5

She makes you look crazy: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 6

She’s envious: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 7

She’s a Liar. Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 8

She’s the centre of attention: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 9

She manipulates your emotions…Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 10

She’s selfish and wilful: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 11

She’s self-absorbed: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 12

She’s insanely defensive: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 13

She terrorized: Characteristicsof Narcissistic Mothers Pt 14

She’s infantile and petty: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 15

She’s aggressive and shameless: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 16

She “parentifies”: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 17

She’s exploitative: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 18

She projects: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 19

She is never wrong: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 20

She doesn’t acknowledge people’s feelings: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 21

She Blames: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 22

She destroys your relationships: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 23

She goes pathetic: Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers Pt 24

10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families

Reinterpreting Reality: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 1

Mixed Messages: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 2

Thou shalt be an adult: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 3

Keeping secrets: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 4

Protect Family Secrets: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 5

Thou shalt not feel: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 6

No Boundaries: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 7.1

Hypervigilance: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 7.2

Do it yourself: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 8

Be Perfect: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 9

No Forgiveness: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families Pt 10

A Summary: 10 Commandments of Dysfunctional Families

The Narcissist’s Children

“I can’t!”

Superior, Subordinate, Equal

Superior, Subordinate, Equal Pt.2: DOING it!

You don’t have to earn ANYBODY’s respect

Attention seeking: a tale of two psyches

Art of No Contact, The: Part 1

Art of No Contact, The: Part 2

Low Contact—an alternative to No Contact

ABC of Boundaries: keeping the Narcissists at Bay, The

Journalling: Helping you to help yourself

Learning at the Narcissist’s Knee

Am I a Narcissist, too? All about Fleas

Loving the Imperfect

Coming back from adversity

Deconstructing rage

Journaling works! A reader writes…

Curse of Hope, The

Scapegoats: not always what you expect

Good, the bad, the ugly: Therapy and Therapists, The

Action vs Reaction are you still being controlled by your Narcissist?

Scapegoat’s Daughter, The: a guest post

Why we stay

Feeling Invisible

Stirring the pot: provoking drama

Self-sabotage: Parts 1 through 3

Self-sabotage: Parts 4 through 8

Self-sabotage: Parts 9 through 11

Self-sabotage: Parts 12 through Conclusion

Scapegoat picks a partner, The

Scapegoat’s Daughter Revisited, The

Food for thought

What if she said she was sorry?

“Why me?” Why were we chosen to be the scapegoat?

Not-so-sweet taste of revenge, The

Elusive “Normal” – First of 3 parts, The

Elusive “Normal” – Second of 3 parts, The

Elusive “Normal” – Third of 3 parts, The

Overcoming Denial

Karma: what it is and what it isn’t

Your destiny is in your own hands

Epiphanies: the truth can set you free

We weren’t all perfect angels

Do you know how to feel loved?

When you don’t—or can’t—take credit

Just who is looking out for YOU?

A Fable for our Lives

Good, the Bad, and the Gullible, The

Unlearning your Learned Helplessness

Narcissism’s Relationship Trap

Narcissist in your Head, The

Make your own Holiday Miracle

Why me?

Cleaning up someone else’s mess: waiting to be rescued

No Contact—ShouldI?

Triggering—good for you?

Boundaries are good for us, too

NO CONTACT letter, The

Mother’s Day Melancholia

Folly and Futility of asking “Why?”, The

You have the Power

Correction or Punishment? How to stop the guilt

JADE: You don’t owe your Ns anything

I can’t wait until my N dies and I’ll be free…

Parable, A

“Me” Flea, The

Five Women

So you think you are an Empath…

“Get over it!”

Trapped in the F.O.G.?

Are you doing what you need to do?  

Let’s talk about closure

You can’t always get what you want...

Forgiveness revisited

I didn’t have a mother

Paying it forward

I don’t want a reconciliation…

Friends and Frenemies: ACoNs and Friendship

Gifts of Failure, The

My Memories

The Sandwich

The Toothache

Long Way Home

Moving Day

The Camera

A Visit from Nana

Visiting Norma

Missing…

Gramma’s Road

Lost and Alone

New Beginnings

’Twas the night before Christmas

Doctor’s Visit

Choice

The Long and Winding Road

The Apple

The Dress

Fudge

True Confessions

It ain’t just a hobo…

The Telephone Call

The Gun

The McKenzies

Little Girl Lost

First Kiss

Bus Money

Underneath it all…

Mother

Fair and Equal

Old Jim Crow

Information, please

I Love Lucy

Advancement Opportunity

The Homework Assignment

Red Tulips

Fidelity

Sanctuary

The Audition

1%

Baby Redux

Baby Redux, Pt II

Best Friends

Snapshots

Besmirched

Waiting

Turning a corner…

I can dress myself!

Not even my father was safe...

Facebook  

We have a Facebook Group!

Update on the Facebook group

Facebook Group Update 2

Didn’t get invited to the Facebook group?

Facebook Group: Basic Tenets, The

Miscellaneous

On Holiday

Recommended Reading

I have not abandoned you

What do YOU want?

Some days this is very discouraging…

She’s back!! (House of Mirrors)

Festive Season Wishes

An invitation to have your say…

Finally! A Forum for Us!

Swan Waters

I will be back

On my way back

Would any of you be interested…?

Happy New Year!

I have limitations, too…

Danu Morrigan has written a book!

Accusations Against Me (Danu) Pt1

Accusations Against Me (Danu) Pt2

Accusations Against Me (Danu) Pt3

Accusations Against Me (Danu) Pt4

Accusations Against Me (Danu) Pt5