The
other day I got an invitation to join a new forum…a place where we can interact
with other people who share our experiences with having Ns in our lives. What
excited me about it was that it was founded by a small group of women who were
left abandoned when Tracy Culleton (Danu) shut down her DoNM forum.
Like
all new endeavours, this new forum needs members to make it work. The core
group of founders are looking for people to join and they asked me to pass the
word. I thought I would go one better: I offered them a guest post on this blog
and asked if I could distribute some free memberships to people who were
interested. And to my delight, they said yes!
Here is
the story of this exciting new forum:
The
SwanWaters.com Fairy Tale
The
story of the Ugly Duckling tells about the duckling that is attacked and abused
by the other ducklings in his Duck Family for being different. When he leaves
the duck pond he feels horrible and thinks that something is wrong with him.
But after the winter is past, be finds out he has grown into a beautiful
gracious swan.
Our own
fairy tale started with 10 women that connected online in an effort to
understand the troubled relationships they had with their parents. After the
website they connected through crashed, a lot of women who depended on that
site for validation and advice got abandoned. The 10 founding Swans were lucky
enough to have exchanged emails before this happened, and were able to
re-establish contact. We moved their healing journey to Skype, where we were
able chat and post and continue their journey to healing.
We
realized the power of journaling thru a forum and comparing experiences.We
cheered each other on and empathised with tough situations. We became sounding
boards and reality checks for one another. And we began to understand the power
of a community to support us when our FOOs fail--the power of a community to
comfort, to teach, to assist with compassion.
Another
thing we have realised is we don't want to stay stuck in the mode of just
sitting around griping about our terrible mothers. This allows us to move
forward with a focus on our lives and
our healing. We realised we wanted to
share this growth with others and offer them a path to healing, just like we
had been able to share.
It has
been a year now, and the changes in our lives and attitudes have been
breath-taking. During that year, we
decided to start the website community www.SwanWaters.com
to provide a platform for the healing journey back from what we call Trouble
Parent(s) or Toxic Parent(s) or Emotional Bullies.
The
realisations and coping skills to heal from many types of abuse are similar. We
have strived to make our articles positive and focussed on the victims, on our
personal stories and experiences, while focussing on coping and healing advice.
With a membership, we also offer chat
and a forum ready for your writings.
SwanWaters.com
is not intended for profit. That commitment is strong. At SwanWaters.com we are
not trying to sell you anything, and the only reason that membership requires a
nominal fee is because we want to keep out trolls and other nosy people. We
happily supply Swans who struggle to pay a membership with a sponsorship. All
we want is to help other Swans find their way on the Swan Path.
I am
Nova, one of the founding Swans. I stumbled onto The Narcissist’s Child blog
(which I read and re-read) and introduced myself to Violet. Although we are new
acquaintances, I feel we already understand each other because of many shared
experiences. Through her, we are happy
to invite you to join the Founding Swans over at SwanWaters.com with a coupon
for a one-year free membership. I think you will find that it is place where
people “get” you, where we all understand where you are coming from.
As we
are a new website, our forum is just beginning. We would appreciate your
participation in the community and look forward to getting to know you. In
return for your free membership, we ask only that you advise us of any
technical website issues or suggestions for improvements at support@swanwaters.com. Thank you
Violet, for allowing me a guest post!
Fly
free and live in peace,
Nova
If you are interested in joining this forum, please send me an email using the
email form below, telling me you want in and I will email you back with a code
that you use when you sign up for the forum that will give you free access for
a year. I only have 25 free memberships to give away, though, so if you are interested, contact me right away! If, at the end of the year, you wish to continue your membership and
cannot afford to pay the membership fee, let Nova know and she will chat with
you regarding a “scholarship” that will allow you to continue as a member at a
reduced or even no cost.
I have
joined and I think this is a wonderful opportunity for all of us. For those who
were burned in or banned from Danu’s forum, this is a particularly good
opportunity because these people have learned from her mistakes: nothing to
sell, no hidden agendas, and as far as I can tell, no over-inflated egos
running the show.
I look
forward to your emails
Hugs
and healing wishes to you all,
Violet
