It is difficult to deal with a narcissist when you are a grown, independent, fully functioning adult. The children of narcissists have an especially difficult burden, for they lack the knowledge, power, and resources to deal with their narcissistic parents without becoming their victims. Whether cast into the role of Scapegoat or Golden Child, the Narcissist's Child never truly receives that to which all children are entitled: a parent's unconditional love. Start by reading the 46 memories--it all began there.

Sunday, December 29, 2013

Festive Season Wishes

I hope you had a wonderful Christmas...

Unfortunately, I have been ill since 23 December with some kind of tummy bug and while I am feeling better today, a week later, I am still not 100%. I am checking email and comments, though, so I am keeping on top of things. As soon as this resolves so I don't feel queasy when I am sitting upright, I will be back. In the meantime, please accept my best wishes for a safe and happy New Year!


  1. So sorry to hear you are ill, Violet. I hope you get better soon and get back to your keyboard!

    I nominated you for a Narcissist Slayer award today if you have time to swing by my blog. It's a cool way to get to know other bloggers focused on can find my post here:


  2. Happy New Year to you, Violet! I've been lurking around your blog for a while now and it has helped me so much. Thank you!
    Hope you'll feel better soon,

  3. I hope you're over your bug, Violet! That is NO way to spend the holiday or to ring in the New Year. Well, ringing in is overrated. Congrats on your Slayer Award, you are one, without a doubt. CS

  4. Thank you so much for your blog I have been trying to make decisions regarding my mother for years now thinking that it was all in my imagination. Reading your blog has been enlightening. My mother has so many traits you describe. I have already gone down the low contact without even knowing about it but this hasn't worked as I am ignoring her. The straw that broke the camels back. She went on holiday and I didn't ask about it before she went. I had previously and my husband who was in the room asked, I am not deaf and heard what she said. She never called to let me know she was home because I didn't and even missed Christmas with her only grandchildren. I now see how things that have happened and have been denied all my life. I now have a big decision to make.


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